Thursday, July 13

Too bad I am bad in common sense.

The silliest thing about human being:
* Every single inferior is fear of superior
* Every single superior thinks he/she is above of the inferior

People called it "The common sense". And they think this is how the world should be ran.

The scarier truth is, if we do the opposite, the world will be so much more richer and better. 
* An inferior who constantly challenges and questions the superior will only make the superior see him/her as an impressive non-confirmist that challenges status quo
* A superior who constantly presents himself humbly and even admitted himself as inferior will only make the inferiors respect, adore or even idolise him/her more. 
And both of the above are only benefits to the individuals, there is a hidden astronomical benefit behind:
Real meritocracy in practice. The chain effect is the crazy profits and unimaginable growth for the company and business. When people forget about hierarchy and statuses, they can only put everything into producing the best work. Real wealth creation in practice.

And there will only be more and more people disagreeing with me, dismissing me as idealistic, and trying to 'teach' me 'the right social tactics'. All of these are based on the horrendous humans' animalistic nature: our egos, our biases of thinking we are better than others, our defensive mechanisms against new challenges, our fear, our beliefs that older and bigger means better, our fallibility in identifying what is truth, our erroneous thinking that threats for inferiors and sycophancy for the superiors are the way. 

Ass-kissing is tempting because it brings short term results hastily, and you attract bottlenecks very soon as well.
Threat is the fastest way to make people conform to you, and soon too it invites destructive rebellion.

Thank God I am bad in common sense.
Fuck common sense. 






Wednesday, July 12

对不起Sorry

二零一七年七月十二日 晚上八点五十二分

今天吃完晚饭后,爸爸和妈妈坐在电视机前,为某一件事情争吵着。
他们买了一张电视台增值卡,要把号码输入到简讯里发出去才能增值,然后才能购买和看到某一些频道。
其实整个过程对一个年轻人来说是再容易不过一分钟搞定的事,但他们就是弄了好久好久都弄不到。
我坐他们身后的沙发,看着他们俩的背影,我马上联想到很多事情,然后就忍不住上楼回房大哭,哭到泣不成声。

我联想到这是以后的他们。两个与世界脱节了的老人,已经丧失了很多能力,有很多事情都已经没办法做好了。
看着爸爸只能一个号码逐个逐个非常非常慢地输入,而且还会输入错的那种。
我尝试解释了很多很多很多遍,他们都听不懂。
妈妈连手机也不太会用,教了她很多次要怎样进Maxis的App她还是搞不太懂。
最近跟他们聊天,也发现我们越来越有代沟了。很多我新学到的知识和在外面看到的东西,他们都好像听不太懂。而且在很多事情的看法上分歧越来越大了,特别是我越来越有自己分析真理和看世界的方法。
我联想到这是我不在他们身边的时候是这样的,他们很多东西都不懂,就只能这样碰碰撞撞抹黑。
我联想到这是以后我不在他们身边的时刻,很多事情他们只能靠自己,但自己却已经没有了
能力。很多他们要做的事,却不懂怎么做也做不到,那种无力感和沮丧。
我联想到以后他们万一连走也走不动,看东西也看不见时,怎么办。
真的很恐怖,联想到这我就真的很怕。

以前这种画面在戏剧里看得非常多,但当时没身在其境,不能体会。以前都觉得我爸妈很好,我还是可以想小孩一样依偎在他们身旁。
不知道是他们真的变老了,还是因为我真的长大了才会领悟到这些问题。
现在我亲身深切地感觉和体会到了。
我真的到了那个成人阶段了。怎么办啊,我没时间了。

几年前的我十分偏执,十分幼稚。我总是认为他们不太会科技,或是思考逻辑不太清晰,他们就应该学,我甚至会想说就是没人逼他们所以他们学不会。我真的太幼稚了。他们是在不同年代长大的,他们没有我成长年代的发达资讯,所以他们不会根本就是无可厚非啊。

我小时候什么都不会时他们从没有埋怨过,那我现在凭什么要求他们,凭什么啊。

我最最最害怕的是,有一天,他们觉得不要麻烦我,很多东西都往自己吞,很多东西都不告诉我,很多东西都不再找我帮他们做了。我最最最害怕的是他们需要独自面对那不知所措,需要自己承担那无助感。
我最最最怕的是,我的某些举动和言辞,让他们认为他们自己已经变成了累赘。

对不起爸妈,以后无论有多大的分歧,我都会好好说话。以后无论你们要求我什么,我都会帮你们好好办。一定。

Thursday, June 29

反鸡汤

舍弃是一个比得到更珍贵的技能,而且强大好几千倍。

追求梦想最难的不是追求梦想,最难的是要做很多很多达到梦想所需要做的,完全不符合梦想本质的琐事。

Tuesday, June 27

Easy!

Rules to success:
Rule 1 : Don't make mistakes.
Rule 2 : If you have to make mistakes, make it as low cost as possible.
Rule 3 : If you have to make high cost mistakes, make it as early as possible.
Rule 4 : Rule 1 is inapplicable. Go for Rule 2 and Rule 3.
Rule 5 : Rule 2 is infeasible before applying Rule 3.

So, go for Rule 3 first!

How simple! And sweet.
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Saturday, June 24

没有逻辑的废文,千万不要点进来

人生活了三分一,才发现最神的技能是认输和失败。因为要主动认输,主动失败,主动做错的事,主动愚蠢,主动平常心,主动压抑自己,真的太难太难了。正常人都不会那么做,而我们大部分都是正常人。

失败是成功之母,非常有名的一句话。如果我们认为这句话是对的,那在我们考试不及格的时候,我们应该欣喜若狂不是吗?在客户拒绝或骂我们服务很烂时,我们应该高兴啊!在我们不受经理赏识或重用时,我们应该开香槟庆祝呀!这时候有人会说:“你神经病是吗?那你妈死掉你是不是应该搞个派对而不是丧礼啊?这...这根本不符合逻辑呀!”

逻辑,好。我就跟你谈逻辑。失败是成功之母这句话的根本逻辑,就是说失败是成功的母亲。而按照人类史上从石器时代时寥寥无几的人口数量,增长到今时今日的70亿人口,说明人类繁殖的能力是惊人的,说明能够成功生出孩子成为母亲的是大多数人,而没成为母亲的人是少数。那如果说失败是成功的母亲的话,那说明有了失败,接踵而来的就是成功。有了母亲的存在,孩子自然出现。我不敢用“必然”这词,但概率是超级超级大的,大到我们近乎可以用“肯定”这词。失败过后,就肯定会成功。
这逻辑,不是更有逻辑吗?

下次有人笑你肥时,你应该要窃喜,然后说:“哈哈真的叻我真的很肥,好开心啊!”
下次有人说干没出息的工作时,你应该开香槟庆祝:“有人说我没出息诶,好棒啊!”
下次有人吐槽你说你能力差时,你应该大笑然后说:“谢谢你啊!我最想要的就是人家吐槽我了,好兴奋呀!”
这些都不是暗讽或反讽,这是真心认输,主动认错。

读到这里,你肯定认为我是脑袋生草生虫了是吧,或者可能早在开头就把这视窗给关了。
呵呵,如果你没办法明白上面所说的,你真的不能成功。

全世界都要赢不要输,如果你主动认输,输得彻彻底底,这时候你就真的赢了!

(越不符合逻辑的话,越要听。这叫:反思。)

Wednesday, June 21

焦虑症发作,咆哮一下

大自然真的是几残酷一下的。
随随便便开始了这个世界的进化论,然后让它一直用自我启动模式。
让动物有了繁殖能力(最重要还要做到繁殖是动物最喜欢做的事),然后就这样第一种物种一直繁殖,生了新一代。
那新一代就会面对环境的调战,没有人教它们怎么生存,就是自己随便走走寻寻觅觅,好运的话活长一点,不好运的话遇上了灾祸就马上死了。就这样,完全是随机。
然后就这样因为环境的挑战,物种本身被逼进化。
就这样在很多很多年后有了人类。
我想一开始的猿猴不能用语言交谈(也因此比较少甚至还没有人类今天复杂的情感吗?),他们生了小猿猴后怎么知道要尽全力保护他们呢?(哺乳动物还真的是伟大的进化)
后来的人类更之强大了,父母都有尽全力保护孩子的能力和心态了。还发明了教育。

蔡康永说,人类为什么自居万物之王。我们的世界其实没有变得更好,不断改变只是宿命而已。大自然是无情的,暴击就是人生最正常的事。坏事和死本来就是世界里最最正常的事,有人承诺过我们人生一定是快乐的吗?如果我们的人生是100%暴击的话其实根本不为过,因为没有人承诺过我们一定点的快乐,哪怕1%.

人类真的真的是有邪恶那面的。至少一半吧。

看了看周遭,发现现在很多人还是非常享受生活。享受科技的好玩,享受世界文明带来的多姿多彩。还有很多人都愿意花钱去干这个那个的。没那么多疑虑。
这也是资讯这把双面刃,它让我们知道了很多机会,也让我们知道非常多带来疑虑的坏事。
不需要庸人自扰。发生了再算。
"I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened"
- Mark Twain

Tuesday, June 6

Don't be stupid to believe the obvious

I am always torn between two kinds of motivations:
- Positive reinforcements and love
- Negative punishments and fear

I did not know how to choose. My heart has always been telling me the former while the society has always been advocating for the latter.

I do not understand the partisan that cries for "Negative punishments and fear". Warnings and fears are their alter egos. They never stop hoaxing others to do what they deem as the right thing, and demanding everyone to pursue their version of success. "You should do this, you should do that" is their punch line. They reprimand others for their mistakes, and they do not tolerate and embrace diversity other than what they think. They want everyone to avoid mistakes by all means, and they condemn people for not avoiding mistakes. They warn people to not giving too much of compliments or else that will grow a person's ego.

I found this type of philosophy (or I should call it as 'shallow thinking') really odd. Humans are biologically risk adverse and we instinctively crave for achievements. Why should we worry and excessively warn people hoping that they will chase for success and avoid mistakes? We naturally have self doubts in our inner voices and what we need are compliments. Why should we be so cautious in giving compliments and why do we insist to multiply the criticisms that already exist in our inner voices?

Why do we state the obvious? We know we want success and we really don't like mistakes. We already have enough of self criticism and we don't need more of them. We need compliments. Why do you keep telling me fucking platitudes which I already know when I was born? Why do you keep giving me things that I already have and deprive me of things that I want? Can you stop telling me pointless stuffs? Why are you so retarded? Can you be a little kinder to me?

Behind every single neurotic predicament lies the problems of psychology. They were forced to do things that they are doing, they didn't feel happy and they didn't have freedom. They have been reprimanded for mistakes. They were (are) forced towards unhappiness. Now they just want you to be like them.

And please don't deny their existence albeit the fact that it sounds really depressing. These people are everywhere in our life. These traits are in part of every single one of us. That boss who uses threats to force you to work. That mother who has a picture in mind on how must her child be like. That egoistic friend who likes to tell you what you should do like an unrest (annoying af) instructor. That partner who expects you to do certain thing otherwise separation is the only recourse. And it is not about others, we are all these kind of people once in a while. We form expectations on people around us and feel upset when they do weird things that contrast your expectations. We all have that urge to berate and rebuke when people turn out different as what we expect. Yes, we are all that monster in at least 50% of our life. We are all the villains that another half of heroic us hope to wipe out. But we hardly notice that we are the villains when we are the villains.

Today, I am very firm for an answer. The answer is "Positive reinforcements and love."
What if I suddenly become lazy and slack against goals and responsibilities? We naturally have sense of urgency and sense of time to do meaningful things in our limited span of life. Laziness is a symptom of deeper baggage such as fear and sense of worthlessness. No one is naturally lazy.
What if I become so careless and kept making mistakes? What a poor fallible logic there you have. We naturally dislike mistakes, it is impossible for us to keep making mistakes non stop.

The more emphatic you are towards "Negative punishments and fear", the more fear you created and the more you are afraid towards things that you want to do. An utterly absurd vicious cycle. It is no surprise that all these people hardly achieve gigantic success in life. Their cautious and neurotic attitude are meant to help them to avoid errors and to seize every possible achievements, but paradoxically it prevents them to achieve big things. They are too busy looking before the leap, and ended up rarely leaping. Opportunities are missed, lives are being lived conservatively. If we only care about not making the wrong moves, we will also never get to make the right moves.

Many will continue live under that rigid definition of life.
I dissent. The real meaning of life is more than those secular successes, the real meaning is to unleash our inherent beauty and love.


Thank you Mum and Dad for believing "Positive reinforcements and love". Both of you are wonderful.